You Know What to Do. So Why Don't You Do It?
Same patterns, same results — even when you try harder! LET'S BREAK THAT LOOP. Join a 4-week guided workshop for anyone stuck on Autopilot.
Thursdays cohort
Thu 15 Oct 2026
Length
4 weeks · 90 min
Where
Live on Zoom
Group size
Max 12
First Session Starts In
Two cohorts — pick the day that fits
Does this sound like you?
- 1
You know what to do. You start, then stop. Or you never start.
- 2
You try harder. Same result.
- 3
You say yes when you mean no.
- 4
You judge yourself more harshly than you would judge anyone else.
- 5
You fear failing. You fear succeeding. You fear being judged.
- 6
You feel you have no choice. Life just happens to you.
- 7
Same conflict. Same relationship struggle. Different day.
From the outside, you look capable. On the inside: self-doubt, shame, embarrassment, and what will they think?
The loop
Which repetitive cycle are you in?
Every pattern once helped you. Somewhere. Sometime. It kept you safe, liked, or out of the spotlight.
Now it keeps you where you are.
- 01What is the loop?
- 02What starts it?
- 03What story do you tell yourself?
- 04What do you do next?
- 05What does it cost you?
- 06What would happen if you did one thing differently?
Sit with these
The Questions
Four questions you will meet
Hurry up. Be perfect. Please everyone. Be strong. Try harder. Which one runs you?
Would you say that to a friend?
By saying yes to this, what am I saying no to?
What if part of you doesn't want to change?
What you take with you
You will leave with
- Clarity on your own loop, on one page: the trigger, the story, the behaviour and the result
- Understanding of what your self-sabotage is protecting: people-pleasing, trying harder, feeling you have no choice
- Practical tools to quiet the harsh inner judge and your saboteurs, and build self-worth and confidence
- Boundaries you can set and hold, without the guilt
- One small, safe experiment that tests what you believe, and a next step you follow through on
What's Included
4
Group Sessions
Four weekly live sessions, held virtually. Ninety minutes each. A small group — maximum 12 — where real work happens alongside other people also in transitions.
90 min · Weekly · Virtual
1
Individual Session
One dedicated 60-minute session. Bookable within 30 days of programme end.
60 min · 1:1 · By appointment · Included in the price
12
Max Participants
Small enough that everyone is seen and heard. Confidential enough that people say things they have not said out loud before. That combination is what makes the group work.
Confidential · Intimate · Maximum 12Shared learning and mutual support. Space for questions, reflection, and feedback. Confidentiality is central — everything shared stays within the group.
Four weeks. Three lenses.
Step by step, week by week
Each session runs 90 minutes, live on Zoom. We move from you, to the people around you, to the systems you live in.
- 1
Week 1 — Thu 15 Oct
See the loop
Your autopilot scripts: the inner rules that switch on under pressure. You start your one-page loop map.
Self - 2
Week 2 — Thu 22 Oct
Meet the inner judge
Hear the harsh voice, name it, and see what is really yours to carry. Fear of failure and success, shame, self-worth.
Self - 3
Week 3 — Thu 29 Oct
Others
How your scripts play out with people: people-pleasing, conflict, boundaries. You practise one clear sentence.
Others - 4
Week 4 — Thu 5 Nov
Systems and follow-through
What your loop is protecting, the belief beneath it, and one safe experiment you take home.
Systems
How we work
A safe space, first. What you share stays in the room, and nobody is put on the spot.
— Emma Onditi, ACC (ICF)
Psychological safety comes first. This is coaching — not therapy or medical treatment — and it is built to hold you without exposing you.
What we draw on
- Transactional Analysis — The drivers — Taibi Kahler
- Immunity to Change — Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey
- Positive Intelligence — The Judge and saboteurs — Shirzad Chamine
Your coach
Meeting people from the roots: how they grew up, how they live now, and the environment they live in.
Emma Onditi is an Associate Certified Coach (ICF) and founder of VerityGrowth Coaching. She works in change, transition, leadership, identity and people development. Her approach is humanistic and holistic.
She looks through three lenses:
Your investment
Join the group
What’s included
4 group workshops
Live on Zoom · 90 min each
1 individual session
With Emma, by appointment
Personal workbook
Yours to keep
Max 12 participants
Intimate group setting
Safe & confidential
What you share stays in the room
Prefer one to one? Message Emma to talk it through.
Group workshop
One-time payment. Only 12 places in the cohort.
Good to know
Questions
No. It is coaching. If you need clinical support, please speak to a qualified professional as well.
No. You choose what you share.
No. You only need to be ready to look at your own patterns.
Both are possible. The group workshop has a maximum of 12 people. For one to one coaching, message me and we will find what fits.